A new book by an Australian mother and childcare worker say that reasoning and arguing with young children is the wrong course of action and that a sharp smack should be the first strategy with a misbehaving child.
Sue Edgerly has fifteen years experience working with children in schools and child care. Currently, she consults with a finishing school and runs a program improving children’s manners and social skills. Her passion for children’s welfare lead to writing the parenting advice book, 5 Keys Parenting. She says parents should stop praising their children and trying to be their friends. There is too much explaining and reasoning with kids, instead of discipline. Quality time is a myth, she says, and mothers should, if they truly want quality time, stay home to look after their kids.
Her book advocates a return to “updated” traditional parenting, with an emphasis on firm, clear boundaries, supported by affection. She says the five keys of traditional parenting are composure, consistency, control, courtesy and caring. Edgerley blames modern life for slack parenting, which is no longer based around clear discipline, clear roles and a fragmentation of family life. “Children do not respect their parents’ authority and do not seem to have much faith in their parents’ ability to make good decisions,” Edgerley says.
I reckon she is dead right. Full story here.